I'm so sorry for your loss MoniDew.
Much blessings to you and your family as the holiday season approaches!!!
I do agree that knitting is soothing and calming, it does help to take your mind if only for a few seconds at a time of what you're going through.
In 2004 my kidneys failed. As I prepared for dialysis training, a friend offered to teach me to knit.
I honestly thought to myself "how boring is that" I didn't want to hurt my friend's feelings I said "sure"
I not only learned to knit, I fell in love with it. I would knit away while I did dialysis.
Many times I forgot I was doing dialysis (one of my 4 daily treatments) because I was too busy concentrating on my stitches and patterns.