In person would help, but see if this helps-
- Start with new yarn not the one from the ear flap.
-Cast on 3 and turn then knit those three stitches.
-Take the ear flap with the needle and have it ready in your left hand.
-With your right needle and the 3 stitches put yarn in back (for knitting) stick your right needle into the first stitch and knit it.
-Then knit across the ear flap the same way.
-Now you're going to cast on x number of stitches
-Turn your work so the just knitted stitches are in your left hand. -Using your right needle put it into the stitch and knit it then kind of twist it to put on the left needle. Repeat till you've cast on the number you need.
Here's a video for the knitted cast on.
- when you're done turn your work so the first ear flap and cast on stitches are in your right hand
- hold the second ear flap ready to knit in your left hand and knit into the first stitch as you did before then do each one.
I'm not sure what the rest of your pattern is, but maybe this helps?